There is an attitude in our culture that you can have anything you want if you just pursue your dreams. I detest that attitude. If I mention any aspect of my life that is not fully perfect, people start lecturing me about what I should do to reform myself.
I have one friend I can talk to, someone who, having lived with much hardship, understands that life is not perfect. With everyone else, I've learned to hold back on expressing my dissatisfactions.
Now, if you are, like most people, wanting to reform me, at this point, you will say that I just have to be better at communicating with others, telling them when I want sympathy rather than advice. And if you are like most people, you say that without having any idea what attempts I have already made to communicate with people. People try to oblige for a few minutes, but then they revert back to their instincts and start reforming me again. And I get tired of trying to explain what I want over and over.