He is trying to become a member of an organization that I'm a part of.
I met him at a meeting, and at that meeting a policy was announced. The policy would preclude him from joining.
Later, I heard a rumor. I heard that the leadership of our group didn't like this guy and another who wanted to join. They went to the governing body above them and asked the governing body above them to decree this policy.
They wanted to keep these two individuals out of the organization. They hid that fact by pretending that:
- It was a policy matter, nothing against the individuals.
- It was out of the control of group leadership, and against the will of the leadership, and came from the governing body above.
I like him because he's direct. I respect him because he is direct.
I do not respect the way the group leadership for this. It's hard to say no to someone. But if it's your choice to say no to someone, take responsibility for it. You don't want to be the bad guy, but you are the bad guy. Own up to it. You have the authority to choose. Own your choices.
I hate it when people do that to me. If they would just say no, then I could move on, but instead they go all vague and squirmy.
Squirmy people suck.
Nimue Brown wrote two blog posts recently about behaving honorably. I think this is about being honorable. Being honorable means owning your choices.