If someone is blind, we don't think it a reflection on their character when they say they don't drive.
If someone has no leg, we don't think it a reflection on their character when they say they don't ski.
Those with conditions such as celiac disease, multiple chemical sensitivities, chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia, post traumatic stress syndrome, depression, and attention deficit disorder don't always get such understanding.
"You need to snap out of it."
"You need to get outside your comfort zone."
"You just need to eat more spinach."
"Don't be so picky."
"Take a chance."
"You value your time at home."
No, it's not that I chose to be a homebody.
I used to love mountain climbing.
I used to love rollerblading.
I used to love going to concerts and festivals.
I used to love dancing.
I used to love skiing.
Now those things are too physically uncomfortable to enjoy. Yes, I can still do some of them for short times once in a while. But the fact that I don't do them very much is not something I chose.
The fact that I enjoy my time at home, reading, listening to music, practicing tai chi -- yes that's something I chose. I chose to enjoy what I have. But it wasn't my choice to cut back on other activities.